Spirituality Struggles – Anxiety
When people think of spirituality and self-growth, a lot of them assume that those of us on our journeys don’t have struggles. But the truth is our troubles don’t just go away.
Since I started my spiritual journey, there are definitely some things that my views have changed on but a lot of my deeper problems are still there. For example, when I’m late for something or if I accidentally break an object – instead of letting it ruin my day, I try to realize that so much worse could have happened. I believe everything that happens to you leads you to this moment where you are now. So I don’t let these little things upset me. But not everything is this easy. There are still some things I have a hard time dealing with.
I have dealt with Severe Social Anxiety since I was in high school and it’s something that I still struggle with today. When I was in high school I missed so many classes because the thought of going made me nauseous. The more classes I missed, the more I wanted to stay home. The more I stayed home from school, the more I started staying home for everything. I stopped hanging out with my friends or going shopping with my family. I became a complete introvert.
After I graduated from high school, I stayed home. I didn’t work or go to college. That is, until the following year. I had this spontaneous idea that I wanted to go to community college for a year and then get a job. So that’s what I did. I left my hometown to go to school and I felt great. Suddenly I wasn’t nauseous and I met new people and I just felt so motivated. After a few months, I finished school and I was ready to get a job, but then the pandemic happened.
This is when I moved back home. I really enjoyed staying home and spending time with family. When things started opening up again, I started feeling anxious again. Whenever I would go anywhere, I felt so dizzy and I couldn’t concentrate on anything. I would somethings lose feeling in my feet while I was walking. It was as if last year hadn’t happened. All that excitement to get out into the world by myself was gone.
It was so bad that I would take ginger ale and crackers everywhere I would go. Sometimes I would even take a gravol before I went out. This was not the healthiest thing. Seriously, I don’t recommend this! It was pretty unhealthy and it didn’t really make me feel much better. It just comforted me to know I had it as an option. I used to pinch my thighs to distract myself with pain. I would come home and find bruises all over my thighs.
Quick Tips for Anxiety
Anxiety is not something you can just get over. Sometimes you can have moments where you are feeling better than ever. And sometimes you’ll just feel like you’re right back at the bottom where you started. Although I still feel this way, there are some things that have really helped me with how I have been feeling. Over the years, I have done tons of research on social anxiety and everything that comes along with it – causes, symptoms, natural remedies, etc. I’m going to tell you about some of the natural remedies that have literally saved me.
One of the best remedies for nausea I’ve tried was finding pressure points. It’s simply and it’s free so you can do it anytime anywhere!. I read online that gently massaging the middle part on the middle finger (photo shown below) with your opposite thumb can help relieve the feeling of nausea. Every time I would feel nauseous in public I would do this and it really works! I still do this sometimes if I’m anxious or if I had too much to eat.
Another thing that really helps calm me down when I feel anxious is to focus on my breath. Inhale for 4 seconds, then hold your breath for 2-4 seconds and then exhale for 4 seconds. Take longer breaths if you need to. Do this until you stop feeling anxious. Being conscious of your breath can help cleanse your mind from all of those unsettling anxious feelings.
Another quick fix that can help with anxiety is just acknowledging all of your senses. Focus on a few things that you can see, hear, smell, taste, and feel. Really focusing on these things along with taking deep breaths can be really conditioning.
I mentioned how the thought of leaving my house literally made me nauseous. Well, this was my trigger. I had a fear of throwing up. It was so bad that I basically spent all day every day in my room. I mentioning this because I found out that this was a subconscious thing. My fear was throwing up in public. I would start imagining myself throwing up wherever I went and I would get so nervous about it actually happening that I would literally feel nauseous. (I was basically manifesting my anxiety!)
This is where shadow work comes in! I started learning about shadow work a few months ago and I’ve been practicing it quite a bit. If you don’t know what shadow work is; it is basically a way of changing the patterns of your unconscious mind (those things you think about without really think about eg., when you drive home and zone out and then you get there you wonder how you made it.)
Shadow work has allowed me to start taking control of my negative subconscious thoughts and start creating new positive ones. This allows my brain to start thinking positively without telling myself to think positively. This doesn’t work overnight and it’s not a set thing. I still have days where I just don’t want to leave my house and sometimes I won’t. This just makes it harder to leave next time. If you’re feeling this way, it’s important to picture yourself going out and doing the thing that’s making you nervous. Think positively and believe that you will have a great time when you go. It’s also important to listen to yourself. If you feel you shouldn’t go then it’s okay to stay home but try not to make that a habit. If you stay home one weekend, try going out the next.
To be completely honest, it’s not easy. Anxiety is a huge struggle for me. I fight it every day and although I am seeing slight improvement, it’s still there. It probably always will be with me.
Overall, I have found ways that work for me when dealing with anxiety, especially in social situations. Some things that work for me may not work for you. But the most important thing is to be open to trying new remedies. I recommend natural remedies. I’ve always been skeptical about anxiety & depression medications. I love my body and I don’t feel comfortable putting anything unnatural inside myself.
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